Akhilandeshwari

Akhilandeshwari is a South Asian Goddess who is known as ‘She Who Is Never Not Broken’. Akhilan-“ means, “never-not-broken” and “deshvari” is a Sanskrit term for goddess.

As human beings, we are broken over and over during our lifetime. Broken from grief, from heartbreak, from loss and traumas, both physical and mental.

A question I am frequently asked is how I have endured and survived some of the times I have been broken- both literally and figuratively.

The truth is that it was at those times in my life when I was most broken that I have made deep acquaintance with my pain and suffering. Mostly in silence, frequently with hot tears running down my face, but always with an open soul and inquisitive mind.

I learned at a very young age that I was going to be the only one to save myself.

For many years, I ran and ran and then ran some more. I managed to keep my life busy and full. I kept the lessons and the learning and the inevitable time for reflection at bay until I was forced to face all the broken pieces of me.

As a dear friend calls it- the time was coming for excavation, a time that would be forced upon me for digging deep inside.

To remember. To reflect. To open doors leading to places I had been trying to avoid going for years. And I had a whole lot of places I had been avoiding.

Emotional pain was always something to be avoided at all costs, and if I had to hurt in that way, it was best to stuff it deep and forget it if I could.

Maybe i could find someone else in even more pain than me and try to help them. That sounded better than having to look at my own. Find someone even more broken than myself and try to love them back together again. I have had whole relationships that started from that very criteria.

Distractions. Deflections. Denial.

I am indeed like Akhilandeshvari, she of “never not broken”.

I like to think that I finally stopped running and invited my pain in for tea.

But it didn’t really work that way.

One day a few months following the death of my brother, I found myself crying and quite honestly couldn’t stop. I sat on my couch, totally alone, and for the first time in my life, I allowed it all to wash over me. All that sticky, hot, aching pain.

I invited it in and let it wash all over me. I sat with it, my home growing dark as the hours slipped by around me.

The losses, the abuses, the neglect, the regrets – everything I had kept behind those doors for years. I felt at times like I was psychically shattering. My heart ached and my lungs felt full. Every part of my body was like a sponge, taking in more and more pain as every one of those doors opened, one at a time.

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Look at it. Deal with it. Look at your part in this.

Call it a Come to Jesus moment, or a transformation, or even a nervous breakdown if you will. All I know is that once I allowed it to happen and really spent the time picking through all the broken pieces, I began to see the prisms of light within me and within my broken pieces.

I believe that people are drawn to me because of my brokenness.

I think they must sense that if they share their own stories of suffering with me, I will listen and be with them in their pain.

I am not fearful of pain anymore, mine or anyone else’s.

Pain has provided me with the lessons I most needed to learn and has been the best tool for growth I could ever ask for.

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18 thoughts on “Akhilandeshwari

  1. calensariel February 21, 2018 / 7:09 pm

    “I believe that people are drawn to me because of my brokenness.

    I think they must sense that if they share their own stories of suffering with me, I will listen and be with them in their pain.”

    And THAT, my dear one, is WHY you shine so brightly. Like Leonard Cohen said, “That’s how the light gets in…” This is so honest and vulnerable and downright beautiful, hon… ❤ ❤ ❤

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    • Shannon February 21, 2018 / 7:31 pm

      Thank you. I sat for a long time with this one..trying to communicate feelings into words. I thought of you and what you’re going through right now, too, while writing. 💖

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      • calensariel February 21, 2018 / 9:04 pm

        Shannon, I know YOU probably don’t feel this way, but honestly, hon, your life has been the most inspiring of anyone I know. How I wish your passion would move you to share it in some more far-reaching way than just the blog. Your words in this post just humbled me, girlfriend…

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  2. calensariel February 21, 2018 / 7:13 pm

    Reblogged this on Impromptu Promptlings and commented:
    Shannon’s philosophy of life is so beautiful. There’s something very special about this post…

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  3. Fimnora Westcaw February 21, 2018 / 7:14 pm

    Perhaps it may sound strange, but I think you will not think it so. When I read, “As human beings, we are broken over and over during our lifetime. Broken from grief, from heartbreak, from loss and traumas, both physical and mental.” I felt relief! I was thinking all this time I needed not to work to fix myself, but now I realize that this is what I came to being for; to experience being broken. Also, it reminds me of a ‘healing practice,’ where one breathes in all the pain of the other beings in this universe, and breathe out the healing so other can heal. It is called Tonglen (sp?) It is good to know that it is okay to be broken.

    Very well done post Shannon.

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    • Shannon February 21, 2018 / 7:28 pm

      You made perfect sense. I believe that too and once you realize it, you stop fretting about fixing yourself and learn to love and accept all your broken parts as they are. I’ll be looking that Tonglen up!

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  4. Soul Gifts February 21, 2018 / 8:13 pm

    I sat mesmerised, reading this Shannon. It is so heartfelt and describes so perfectly what I have been unable to put into such simple, eloquent words.

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    • Shannon February 21, 2018 / 8:23 pm

      Thank you so much💖 It really took some work trying to make it understandable with words.

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  5. spiritualdragonfly February 23, 2018 / 7:13 am

    all I can say is Wow Shannon ….. I am a Wabi Sabi gal myself…so i just LOVE this.

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  6. Kelvin M. Knight's blog February 25, 2018 / 1:39 am

    Only when we truly embrace our pain, can we ever really begin to love ourselves, as you have so eloquently said. When we love ourselves we stand a chance of loving our neighbours. And I totally get what you mean about people in pain being attracted to you. That magnet is mine too, in the organisation I volunteer for. 😎

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  7. metalflowermaker March 24, 2018 / 8:52 am

    “A question I am frequently asked is how I have endured and survived some of the times I have been broken- both literally and figuratively.”

    You are so strong. I was hoping I had something articulate to say, but you said it all so well yourself.

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